Tracey Thurman Story

February 25, 2011 - 85,843 views


Tracey Thurman is known as a Connecticut housewife who suffered domestic violence done by her husband, Charles Buck Thurman. The dreadful abuse came to a climax in one bloody night when Buck Thurman stabbed Tracey 13 times. Buck was then arrested, and Tracey could be saved by doctors.

Thurman Law was resulted from Tracey’s effort when she sued police officers as she failed to get proper protection from the local police force in 1989. Tracey Thurman was left partially paralyzed and received a $2.3 million in damages in 1985.

A Cry For Help: The Tracy Thurman Story, a film inspired by Tracey Thurman story was made in 1989, first aired on October 2, 1989. Nancy McKeon, who played Tracey Thurman in A Cry for Help, starred in the film in the hope that it would keep Buck Thurman in the prison for a longer time.

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91 Responses to “ Tracey Thurman Story ”

  1. Bob Buckley on November 18, 2011 at 2:26 pm

    My ex has custody of my daughter and lives with her abusive boyfriend. I tried to get custody of my daughter and the judge ended up cutting MY visitation. My exs son even testified on my behalf. My ex denied everything. since the hearing he has threatened both my ex and his son at gun point. his charges were reduced and I still can’t get custody of my daughter. My daughter thinks that he won’t hurt her and everytime I bring it up she gets mad at me. I just watched this movie for the first time and am going to find the DVD and watch it with my daughter. What my ex does is up to her but how can she put her daughter in that position. i don’t understand the legal system or her. if he ever touches my daughter it will never go to court. I will be judge jury and executioner and have no qualms about it. I will hold my ex to the same standard. it’s not like she doesn’t have a way out. she has moved out 3 times and her parents took her back and took care of here. As far as I am concerned the “Justice System and DHS” are as much responsibloe as my ex. she is an alcoholic and has the charges to prove it but the Judge didn’t care. I was even assaulted by here ex and 2 of his friends when I returned Dakota. he pled guilty and still nothing was done. it’s all bullshit and lipservice. nothing has changed.

  2. Lynne on November 18, 2011 at 2:49 pm

    I was in high school when i first watched A cry for Help: The Tracey Thruman Story. I remember saying that I never wanted to be a victim of that kind of hatred. But three years later, I was a victim of domestic violence for three years. I did survived because i know that I had to protect my children from harm. I pray for all women that are in domestic violence relationships.. i pray that even though they think there is no way out. there is always a way..Please get help and please tell someone.

  3. jessica claybaugh on November 20, 2011 at 11:57 pm

    my name is jessica claybaugh madain name neff im 35 now but in early 90s i was 14teen my mother was beaten by my sisters dad for 11 years and he beat me cause i wasnt his daughter and molested me for 11 years he daosnt know were we r at mom since then remaried to a good man and me ive gotten help for what has happend to me but when we lived with him it was hell police did not help we had to help our self we left in the nite and went were he couldnt find us untill my mom got enogh money for a house some were eles and a couple years later he found us but this time we stood up to him hes threats that he would kill us next time were just theats he did nothing he wanted to see my little sister ann who that was her dad she told him to she wanted nothing to do with him. And for me i told him to go or i was going to kick his ass i was older now not this little girl anymore it felt good and he left we never seen him again but i still have bad dreams. IM married now to a wonderful man and have a son now. Weve heeld but the scares are still there but i will never let a man do that to me again or my mom but there needs to be tougher laws and the courts need to listen a little more to us now were safe but we never forget. I hope tracey thurman is safe and thanks to her law we can be a little safer but still we need more laws. thanks jess

  4. Paige on December 19, 2011 at 10:31 am

    Nothing has changed. My daughter was abused by her husband who also sexually molested her 3 year old daughter broke my toe and bruised my ribs when he hit me. The police didn’t help us then and even after several restraining orders they didn’t help us. Every time we called they acted like it was no big deal and most of the time they wouldn’t show up until after he was gone. One cop had the balls to ask my daughter if they were still married and stated that he was her husband and had certain rights. We all know that most cops are corrupt and useless. I had hoped that when this movie came out it would help change the way pigs (cops and men) treated domestic violence. Boy, was I wrong. NOTHING HAS CHANGED!

  5. Vanessa on December 19, 2011 at 1:44 pm

    So sad to read these stories, and even more horrifying to know that there are authority figures out there that exhibit this behavior. Who knows maybe “those cops” are abusive as well…some cops are as depicted in other true stories/movies. I am happy for those of you who got out of those relationships, and pray for those who are yet in them. I suffered enough abuse as a child…adoption as a result; I be damned (excuse my language)if I allow it as an adult!!! I am so over-protective of my daughter; and teaching my daughter to be the same way (never let anyone abuse you mentally or physically)!

  6. Cindy on December 19, 2011 at 6:28 pm

    This is probably the 4rth time I have watched this movie since it first aired. Everytime I watch it I not only get mad but I cry uncontrollably. I get so upset over the nonchalant attitude of male authority figures that as a wife/girlfriend you are expected to act a certain way. No human being has the right to physically abuse another, especially when they aren’t as physically strong as you are. Men today are using mental abuse to attack a woman’s self esteem—eventually the physical abuse will come.
    I just hope the mom’s and dad’s of today bring up their girls and boys to have great esteem and not take mental and/or physical abuse from anyone

  7. Beverly on December 20, 2011 at 12:46 am

    I saw the movie for the upteenth time last night & it still irks me that Buck basically got a slap on the hand. He should’ve got life for what he did. As for the police dept, women should have balls, instead of men. We as women put up with a lot of crap from men, mentally, physically, emotionally, not only in our home life, but even at work. I was a victim of domestic abuse with my 1st husband and my daughter was conceived by rape. But after years of abuse and continuous threats on my life and being told that nobody would ever find med because I would be cut up in bits and that my daughter would never have her mother ever again, I finally had enough of that bull crap and got the BALLS to stand up to him by telling him if he wanted to kill me, that he could kill me in front of the cops (he probabaly would have if he had the balls), but he didn’t call my bluff. So, here I am today, divorced twice, happy with a beautiful daughter who has given me 4 beautiful grandchildren. As for the 1st husband, he’s gone now–cancer. It’s funny how God works in mysterious ways. Buck will have his day when he meets his maker. For all the women who have made comments about being in an abusive relationship or even knowing someone who is in an abusive relationship, pleae find the strength within yourself and get out. There are many of us who got out and there are many of us who have given good advice from what I have read. Before you can love anyone else, you need to love yourself first and foremost. God bless Tracey and her family. God bless her son CJ who seems to be on a path of destruction, may he find the peace that he deserves. And to all the women who are being abused, bless you all and may you find the strength within to get out before it’s too late.

  8. Mary on January 28, 2012 at 4:24 pm

    I saw this movie several times growing up and I always said that nothing like that will ever happen to me, but it did; and not just once. I was raped repeatedly at the age of 15 and several more times by other men between the ages of 15 and 24. I conceived a daughter from one of those rapes, but I love her very much and my first husband knows how she was conceived but he has always claimed her as his. After my first marriage failed, I started dating again and soon remarried a man that I thought was just the greatest. A week after we were married I found out he was smoking crack and he became very violent. One evening he put my own 9mm to my head and just ask me if I wanted to f..ing die. He dared me to say a word, and I knew that if I opened my mouth he would pull the trigger. During the time we were just dating he was a good man except he would force me to have sex when I didn’t want to. Anyway, I left the day after he stuck the gun to my head and he actually left me alone and I have not had any problems since from him. I started dating again a few months later. This man seemed so different, but after just a few short weeks into our relationship he started forcing me to have sex with him all the time. The word no was a game to him. He would just tie me up and the more I struggled or fought the more he would hurt me. I was constantly going to work with bruises all over me, and of course everyone noticed, but like most women I would just make up some sort of excuse. He had already told me that he would kill me if I left, and I had my three children to think about. Eventually, I stopped bringing my children home with me, I let them stay with their father where I knew they would be safe. However, my boyfriend had two children of his own; they were older but her was very hard on them especially his daughter and I would step in and take the beatings so he wouldn’t hit the children. I did try leaving but he would always find me. He tried to run over me, run me off the road, and threatened to set my house on fire with me in it. So I stayed a little longer. One day after I found out he was cheating I was talking to his daughter about leaving; she was 11 at the time and she simply told me ” nobody leaves daddy, he will find you, daddy does the leaving.” When an 11 year old tells you this you really start to wonder how deminted this person is. I knew he had already shot one person and got away with it. So I just stay and endured all I could until the hurt turned to anger and then hatred. I finally started to fight back. The last day we were together I lit into him and I didn’t give up until he called the police. The police listened to his side of the story and refused to listen to me and even threatend to arrest me for assault. He didn’t press charges though; he would get his revenge later when the police were gone. And he did; he raped me one final time, this time something in him clicked and he knew he had done wrong and he even ask me if I wanted to call the polce or should he. I let it go and cried myself to sleep. The next day on my son’s birthday I went and talked to the detectives and told them what had happened and told them that if they would make him leave my house I would not press charges. He did leave my house but just moved up the street with his ex wife; so I still had to live in fear of what he might do. After he found a new woman he left me alone though and I haven’t had to deal with him for 5 years now. Now I am married to a wonderful man that doesn’t even yell at me and he adores my children and they adore him. We haven’t had so much as an arguement in the past 4 years. we have what most people would call a fairy tale romance. Still to this day though the ghost of my past haunt me and I keep waiting for him to hit me, and if we try to be intimate I still tense up and cringe when he touches me even though he has never forced me or even tried to force me to have sex. I never sought any kind of psychological help and have never really talked about any of this until now. But if there are women out there who read this please don’t be afraid to ask for help. There is always a way out and never make excuses for anyone. No one can make you feel inferior if you don’t let them. I had no where to turn. My family was not the type you could talk to about this kind of thing, I couldn’t go to the police cheif because he himself used to lock me in a room with him and assault me. who was I going to tell; he was the police cheif; and the main detective that we had was a male that was later arrested and charged with rape on a 14 year old. I found if you don’t fight for yourself, no one else is going to do it for you. women, just remember you are stronger than you think. No kind of abuse physcial, mental, or sexual is worth it no matter how much you think you love someone; be it your father, boyfriend, husband, or other. You are human, strong, and beautiful.

  9. Nancy on February 24, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    OMG The Tracey Thurman story infuriates me! Every time I see it I end up screaming a the tv!! Those spineless cops were ridiculous! Hopefully now that people are more aware of domestic violence these crazy abusive men are held accountable for their actions. I hear Buck has remarried..I hope and pray he has changed but doubt it. Poor Tracey and the millions of women in the world who tolerate abuse by men. should be CASTRATED!!

  10. Nancy on February 24, 2012 at 12:01 pm

    OMG The Tracey Thurman story infuriates me! Every time I see it I end up screaming a the tv!! Those spineless cops were ridiculous! Hopefully now that people are more aware of domestic violence these crazy abusive men are held accountable for their actions. I hear Buck has remarried..I hope and pray he has changed but doubt it. Poor Tracey and the millions of women in the world who tolerate abuse by men. These men should be CASTRATED!!

  11. Jean on February 25, 2012 at 4:21 am

    I watched this movie again last night and it just angers me. My beautiful daughter was a victim of domestic violence. She did try leaving him and I tried to get her to leave and move out of state. He would hit and rape her. Finally, he took her life, she was shot in the head and it was ruled suicide….can you imagine that?? Her hair was so matted with grass, twigs, and leaves so they had to cut her hair in the back of her head and her hands were bruised.
    She was only 19 years. It is now 19 years since her life was taken. He continues to get in trouble with beating other people and probably drugs. Nothing happens to him…no justice. My heart will ache the rest of my life….why…why?

  12. Ruby on February 27, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    I was beaten for no reason on November 23, 2011. He got home from work and just started yelling that he hurt his back, so I offered to draw a bath to help with pain and he said ok. when the tub was finished filling, I went to turn the water off and he grabbed me by my hair and tried to drown me, I managed to get out of that (lost a lot of my hair)and tried to get out of the bathroom. He broke the door with my face and the vanity with my hip. I tried to run outside but I took a blow to the back and my head. I went down and he kicked me yelling “die C**t! over and over again. I begged him to stop be kept on for 45 minutes. He went to get his keys to force me in the truck and with one final attempt I threw the keys so he had to find them to get out of there if nothing else. Thats when I managed to get to the phone and dial 911, when they answered, I hung up and disconnected the line so they would automatically dispatch. I knew he would kill me for sure if he knew I called the police. I managed to get outside but couldn’t really move anymore and couldn’t see where I was going due to blood in my eyes and injuries. I screamed and tried everything and the neighbors didn’t want to get involved due to fear of retaliation by him. He got 5 years probation and extensive counseling. He said he took some bad medications and he lost control. I am divorced and running and living in secret in another state to make sure he can’t find me again. I now have to have teeth work done since they were severly damaged in the beating. The fear is still there and the only peace I will have is when I know he is gone someday. In the meantime, I guess I just keep moving and hiding.

  13. Ruby on February 27, 2012 at 12:10 pm

    I was beaten for no reason on November 23, 2011. He got home from work and just started yelling that he hurt his back, so I offered to draw a bath to help with pain and he said ok. when the tub was finished filling, I went to turn the water off and he grabbed me by my hair and tried to drown me, I managed to get out of that (lost a lot of my hair)and tried to get out of the bathroom. He broke the door with my face and the vanity with my hip. I tried to run outside but I took a blow to the back and my head. I went down and he kicked me yelling “die C**t! over and over again. I begged him to stop be kept on for 45 minutes. He went to get his keys to force me in the truck and with one final attempt I threw the keys so he had to find them to get out of there if nothing else. Thats when I managed to get to the phone and dial 911, when they answered, I hung up and disconnected the line so they would automatically dispatch. I knew he would kill me for sure if he knew I called the police. I managed to get outside but couldn’t really move anymore and couldn’t see where I was going due to blood in my eyes and injuries. I screamed and tried everything and the neighbors didn’t want to get involved due to fear of retaliation by him. He got 5 years probation and extensive counseling. He said he took some bad medications and he lost control. I am divorced and running and living in secret in another state to make sure he can’t find me again. I now have to have teeth work done since they were severly damaged in the beating. The fear is still there and the only peace I will have is when I know he is gone someday. In the meantime, I guess I just keep moving and hiding. I had a concusion, severe bruising all over my body and a boot print on my back that was so clear you could read the brand. I watched this movie where tracey was stomped like that and It makes me shudder to think that could of been my result. I thank God that I can still walk. But I don’t think I can ever be normal again emotionally.

  14. kim on March 9, 2012 at 1:23 am

    my second ex tired to beat me to death, he went into the army,my mom said stay with him like a fool i did, we got into it, he slapped me went to jail for the night, i got scared and left him for good, i have in the past, [dreamed about him], i finelly begged GOD to make the dreams stop, and they have. [by the grace of GOD they have.]

  15. annie on March 9, 2012 at 1:40 am

    i wish i could help the women that are getting abused,there is a man in winslow az, he is or still grooming a ten year old, the cops dont care hes 49 years old, he like her so,and the step father is just as bad, hits his wife, and than some she has been told to leave but she has more excuse not to than to, something has to be done yes,

  16. PATRICIA on March 13, 2012 at 3:42 am

    THIS MOVIE IS THE REASON I LEFT MY BOYFRIEND FROM THE AGE OF 17 TO 20 I WAS BEAT ON A REGULAR BASIS. SOMETIMES FOR NO REASON. I ALWAYS SAID I WOULDN’T LET IT HAPPEN AGAIN BUT IT DID AND THIS TIME WITH MY HUSBAND. WE LIVED WITH HIS FAMILY AND THEY ALWAYS SEEMED TO CAUSE PROBLEMS AND IT SEEMED TO AMUSE THEM WHEN HE HIT ME. HE WOULD ALWAYS SIDE WITH THEM TILL ONE DAY I LET HIM HAVE AND TOLD HIM IT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN. WE MOVED OUT AND HE HASNT TOUCHED ME IN OVER 17 YEARS. WE HAVE DISAGREEMENTS BUT IT NEVER GOES PAST THAT. I HAVE GROWN UP ALOT AND HE KNOWS THAT I DONT NEED HIM IF I WERE TO LEAVE HIM.

  17. Lynn on March 19, 2012 at 6:31 am

    This story is sadly, so indicative of how an abused woman is treated. My first husband took me to California, away from family, and when I finally got to a phone and was able to call police one night they told me they could only keep him so many hours, and that I wouldn’t want to suffer what he would do in punishiment after he got out. It’s disgusting. I have neuropathy in the left side of my face because he came inside the house one day and beat me in the head because the soap was in the soap dish upside down. I finally made it back home to Ohio, where he found his second wife (his second victim). He told me he would kill my entire family if I left him, and I waited until he was occupied with another woman before I finally broke free. After all the physical and mental abuse I am still affected by it. The emotional scars will never leave. I have severe PTSD, panic attacks, and anxiety. I work very hard with a phsychiatrist to keep some sense of normalcy. It is very difficult. The authorities don’t listen to us. Restraining orders only antagonize the abuser. My ex tried to run me over with a car while I had a restraining order on him, right in front of my mother. He has been married several times. My friend’s daughter was actually ran over and killed by her husband when she finally decided to leave after an all day episode of abuse towards her. She was only 28 years old.

  18. michelle on March 19, 2012 at 7:35 am

    iam michelle,i have watch the movie, it’s very sad, i have a 5 yrs old son that i dont get to see. my soon to be ex-husband had coustudy of my son i got my son took away from me when my son was only 8 mouth old… my soon to be ex- husband was abusetive to me and slapped me and kick me and made ever promise and threat to me, that i would never get my son back i had to leave… i took him to court, to try to get my son back and i had a p.order on him and he kept on beating on me and he denined ever thing… dhs was invloved….and that was when i got to see, my son then after that the court hearing i didnt get to see my son at all and the court let a sex offender gave him coustudy… i couldn’t say nothing…. he said he would kill me. if i ever got my son back. now he has 2 bitchs raiseing my son…

  19. Amy h on March 19, 2012 at 10:26 pm

    THE SYSTEM IS A FAILURE!!
    I was abused for 6years by my 3 childrens father. Who also after that 6th found out he was sexually abuseing my children and HE GOT AWAY with the sexual abuse bc my oldest at that time was only 4yrs old and to young to testify so it was dropped. But he’s been in jail since 2009 n still has till 2016 for domestic abuse, child abuse, attempted arson on our home, and other things.
    NONE of that would have kept happening if the police would have taken my crystal for help seriously! Toke and threatened my daughters life and since he had paternity rights they did NOTHING!

    Me and my children now ages 7,6,5 and doing GREAT and very happy!

    Good luck to all women that have and are suffering abuse!
    There are ways out so PLEASE do not stay with someone even if they hit you once bc it always happens again and gets worse! Think about the children if there involved!

  20. Jorie on May 28, 2012 at 10:31 pm

    These stories are heart wrenching, I pray for each one’s healing and peace. God bless you all.

  21. kathy larue on May 28, 2012 at 11:18 pm

    Buck Thurman should never have been released!

  22. Jen on May 29, 2012 at 1:37 am

    God, I feel ill every time I watch this movie. I’m wondering if Tracey is in hiding or has changed her identity, as I can’t find any updates on her. I pray she has a wonderful life now.

  23. ugly little man on May 29, 2012 at 2:43 am

    good looks is every thing to a lot of people. a woman wants to be seen with a handsome man,a man wants to be seen with a beautiful woman. sometimes you got to look inside and see people for who they are. you women deserve to be beaten when you think a handsome man is going to take of you and make you happy.

  24. Stephie on July 6, 2012 at 11:43 am

    These messages are heartbreaking. I wish there was more help out there for women that are in your situations. I have been very lucky. Met my husband when i was 15 and have been married 23 years. But I had friends that werent that lucky. I wish we could all pull together and bring an end to these HORRIBLE situations. I am praying for each and everyone of you. God Bless You ALL!!!!

  25. Been there on July 13, 2012 at 4:19 am

    To Jean I’m sorry for the loss of ur daughter & to any women who’ve been to that awful scary place at a man’s hands & many women stuck in this Trap usually have self esteem issues if not before they wind up latter & some wanting the Dream if not for them there kids so they cling to Hope which dose Not work or they fear they cannot do it alone which can play a big part but I know from exp Yes U can & will & things might be hard at 1st but to get that taste of Freedom it’s worth it & there’s Help out there & Pls don’t under Estimate a man & just because 1 guy didn’t do much when his bluff was called Never let ur guard down Don’t take chances & try to surround ur self w ppl that will have ur back & I think it’s close to an addiction to some point U wanna get out then the guy’s sweet until Next time & it’s hard to leave a guy U Love & wouldn’t want to hurt but these guy’s need Help UR Love’s not gonna be enough & when ur ready there are woman’s safe havens & U can call Info Line or local police & they can point U in rt dir,Luv shouldn’t Hurt or leave a bruise & mental scars do leave a mark just as bad & I got out it took awhile & didn’t look back life is Good…

  26. Christine on July 15, 2012 at 10:25 pm

    My name is Christine, I was dating a man for 3 months and in that 3 months he beat me and he raped me. I was in my early 20′s. The last day I was with him, I had to go to a doctors appointment, he wanted to go with me, but I was all set and did not want him with me. He started punching my driver’s side window. And he would not move out of the way so I could leave. So I got out of the car to argue with him. He took my keys and threw them down the st. I went down the street and found them. When I came back up the st, he blocked me so I could not get back into my car. He then head-butted me in the front of my head! I spun around in a circle, all I could see was a white light. I thought I was going to pass out. Thank God,I didn’t! I got into my car,started it up, he was standing in front of my car at this point. So I told him to move out of my way or I would run him over. He would not move, So I put the car in gear and headed right for him, He moved real fast. I drove myself to our local police dept. The woman cop was really nice, she took my complaint, and suggested that I go to the hospital, while she was on her way to arrest him. Needless to say, she arrested him, but he bailed himself out several hrs later. We went to court, and I filed for a restraining order. I got the protective order, but it did me no justice! He violated the order every chance he got. Every time he violated the order, the police would arrest him, but he was always back out in 2 hrs. He stalked me and harassed me for 2 yrs! He destroyed my car, he abused my family, and made my life a living hell! One night he had me jumped out in front of a night club. The police broke up the fight,they picked me up off the ground,but I did not know that the police had me. I thought someone was holding me so she could take more swings at me. She was kneeling down in front of me smiling, so I took my best shot and jumped up in the air and kicked her in the nose. She took off running after that. And the police officers said “That’s your ticket to jail! Their were 5 police officers holding me. I was arrested. While I was at the police station, my mother got a call from my ex boy-friend, he asked her where I was. She told him that she didn’t know. He then told my mother, to tell me, that when he found me he was going to kill me! Right after that phone call with him, she then got my call from the police dept. She told me about his phone call, I told her to call the police and have him arrested for violating the restraining order, and threating to kill me, because I broke her nose. The police went to my moms house, the officer said that he could not arrest him because I was not home to receive the call. (Are you kidding me)?!! So after I got home, I called the police back to my house, the same officer that my mom spoke with came back to my house. Again he told me that their was nothing he could do because I was not there at the time of the call. I started to yell at the police officer, I said the reason I was not at home, was because I was at the police dept under arrest, because he had his friend jump me, and now because I broke her nose, he wants to kill me! I then yelled what are you going to wait until he makes an attempt to kill me or he actually does kill me?!! He then got pissed off and got up and walked out to his car. He came back in with a police report. We filled out the report and he left to go arrest him. Of course he was out again in a few hrs. I put a bat in my car with a home-made bottle of bleach and water. Which I fully intended to use on him if he came after me. But honestly the Police were useless and so was the restraining order! We moved away from our home that we lived in for 23 yrs. and he managed to find our new house. He continued to stalk me. I stayed home inside my home for yrs. Finally was able to go out and enjoy life again. And I ran into him and his new girl friend. He left the bar, and she stayed and she came over to talk to me. She told me that, she always sees him bothering me, and I never do anything to provoke him. So she and her cousin asked me a bunch of questions about our relationship. And what really went on between us. I told her everything. She then said, that he was doing the exact same things to her and her cousin. I then said, ” My advice to you is run as fast as you can,Don’t stay with him a minute longer”. But be very careful, he does not like being dumped. And he will stalk you too, and make your life a living hell! He did the same to a woman before me, he did it to me, and he will do the same to you. Watch your back because just when you think it’s over. thats when he attacks. And oh yeah that’s him sitting outside your house, in cars, behind trees. He is your worst nightmare. And the Mass police are useless.

  27. Jamie on July 18, 2012 at 6:38 am

    I was also in an abusive relationship for many years. My husband and I had a rocky time when we first got married, we went through the infidelity, leaving, emotional and physical abuse. after a few years the only thing that continued was the beatings. Because it did not happen everyday I thought it was ok to stay things would eventually get better. The final straw was 2 years ago in june when he beat me because he was drunk and I would not give him the keys to the car so he could go get something to eat. I called the police when it started but afte that I really got beat. He knocked my front tooth out of its socket (I had to put it back in,) pulled my hair out. I had bruises and bumps everywhere, when the police got there I did nto open the door because he was holding my in our bedroom. he thought if we were quiet the police would leave (bu they didn’t.) finally he opened the door to them they cam in and found me in the bathroom bloodied and scared. I told them I fell because he said if I told them anything else he wold kill me and I believed him. they had enough to take him to jail ragardless of what told them. when he was in jail i got a restraining order on him, he called me the next day and said he knew nothing about why he was in there until a friend of his who is in jail also told him that he beat me up. I believe he was that drunk he blacked out and does not remember (he used to drink himself into an almost coma everyday.) I told him everything that happened that night. and also that i was divorcing him that I would never, ever live like that again. while we were seperated he stopped drinking (cold turkey) and really became a changed man. I was very hesitant on getting back with him at first. but we have been together now for the last 2 years and he has not drank or laid a hand on me since. Do I think he has the potential to do it again? maybe. I dont think it ever leaves them, but he does not even get angry anymore. he tells me everyday how sorry he is and that he would rather die than hurt me. although i had heard that before and he always went back on it. it has been two yers now and he is not the same violent person he used to be. to Ruby who posted on here in feb, I cannot imagine what your life must be like to have to hide everyday. If i could I would take you in and give you a place where he would never find you. good luck to you!!

  28. Fx childs play system on August 7, 2012 at 9:14 pm

    of course like your website however you have to take a look at the spelling on several of your posts. Several of them are rife with spelling problems and I in finding it very troublesome to tell the reality however I will definitely come again again.

  29. Jdv on September 10, 2012 at 5:23 am

    I just went out, bought a gun, filed for divorce and told him “if its gonna be ME or YOU I’m gonna do my damnest to make it YOU”!! Divorced him and heard years later he died of a heart attack from cocaine over dose. Happy Ending ;)

  30. Jdv on September 10, 2012 at 5:30 am

    HOW YA LIKING HELL NOW CONNIE LEE RICE?? LMAO!!! HOT ENOUGH FOR YOU?? AND YES, HE WAS 6’4 AND WEIGHED AROUND 230LBS AND HE’S DEAD AS A DAMN DOORNAIL!! THANK YOU LORD , GOD, JESUS IT COULDNT HAVE HAPPENED TO A MORE DESERVING POS!!! HAHAHAHA!!! :)

  31. Jdv on September 10, 2012 at 5:32 am

    Hollywood couldnt have written a Happier Ending :)

  32. Chris on November 7, 2012 at 11:44 am

    I saw it for the first time tonight, and cried. And I am a man.It’s a shame.

  33. Frankie on February 4, 2013 at 12:42 pm

    I too watched the movie for the dozenth time since it was made. I get so mad at women who stay with abusive men! When my husband and I were first married, he beat me one night when I had our daughter in my arms. Not content to beat the hell out of me, he also stomped the hell out of me after I was down. The next morning he was sitting in the living room and I walked in and hit him in the nose and broke it. I told him then that if he ever laid a hand on me again, I would kill him. I would catch him asleep, tie his ass to the bed, cut his guts out and lay them on his stomach to look at. He never laid another hand on me. Stand up for yourselves, women! A man who will abuse a woman is a COWARD! They will run from a woman who stands up to them! I know this from standing up to two of my sisters exes who were abusive to her while they were married! I was only 5 feet tall and weighed 106, but I let them know it was going to stop, and they knew I meant what I said!

  34. Scott Paul on April 10, 2013 at 11:05 am

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  35. MommaO'5 on April 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    This it to all of you assholes that think its funny or that women deserve to be beaten! Maybe you bitches should get your ass beaten to hell and we’ll see if you feel the same way or maybe your mother/daughter should get the shit knocked out of them. Would you think it was funny then?! Would you say they deserved it?! NO WOMAN deserves to get beaten, I DONT GIVE A DAMN what the circumstances are! And it is true that men who hit women are cowards! Yes I was abused, but I got out of that relationship for my children! I have a daughter and four sons! And I will be damned if my daughter will go thru what I did, for my sons to hit women or for them to get abused by a woman! Yes women are abusive too! I’m not going to stand by my gender when I know women can be abusive. I hope to God that my daughter never puts up with abuse, I also hope the same for my sons and that they never put their hands on a woman. I honestly believe that I am teaching them to be smart about domestic violence and hope they never to go thru it!! This movie also infuriates me, especially the part where Tracey is laying on the ground dying, there are how many police officers there and the husband is behaving like a crazy person WITH their son in his arms and the cops do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! That stomp on Traceys head SHOULD HAVE NEVER HAPPENED! If the police were doing their damn job, that psychotic asshole should have been handcuffed THE VERY SECOND THEY GOT TO THE SCENE! Being a victim of DA, I am relieved that I am one of the lucky ones that got away with little wounds. The fact that it happened will always be with me but I am still here! I can say that I left that relationship with my life! I wish that every woman in a domestic violence situation could say the same.

  36. shania on July 16, 2013 at 6:17 am

    true very sad stupid cops

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  38. Jamie on August 19, 2013 at 8:42 pm

    I highly recommend Lundy Bancroft’s book, ‘Why Does He do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men’. Within this immeasurably important work is the “WHY” of this toxic mindset.

    I , too, have been involved in abusive relationships of one form or the other ( mental, emotional, physical, spiritual ) and never understood the root cause of socially acceptable violence towards women and children. After reading Bancroft’s book it was all very clear to me that, at the very foundations of all societal institutions, misogyny reigns supreme; Men feel ENTITLED to do whatever they want.

    Understanding the root of any illness is the first step towards healing the illness. Everyday that a male child is born into this world he is groomed to be ‘entitled’ to have life on his own selfish terms. This is why there is no ‘relating’ in relationships.
    Women are taught, through the structure of society, to be submissive and available to men with little to no thought of their own inherent needs. It is an inherent NEED to be SAFE and treated as an equal. It is an inherent need to be treated with dignity and compassion. Men are raised to repress these qualities that make them human.

    After 2 failed marriages and one rocky one ( the institution of marriage is nothing more than a construct for profit I have come to understand ) I realized that there was a recurring theme in all of my husbands; They were self-centered to the extreme. There were issues of jealousy and competition with their own children/step-children, jealousy and rage over feelings of ownership of my person, vengefulness, deception, dismissive and inconsiderate of my personal needs or feelings, inconsiderate of the needs of the children, etc, etc.

    Men do not abuse those weaker than them because they had a hard day at work or because they had a bad childhood. They don’t hurt those smaller than them because they took too many pills or drank too much alcohol. Men abuse because they feel they have a right to abuse.

    Please go to Lundy Bancroft’s website for further information on this social dis ease.
    Only through understanding the root cause can we begin to eradicate this behavior and from this place create a world that does not allow for misogyny to take root. Our children deserve a better world.

    I stand with all women, future mothers who desire to create a world fit to raise their beautiful children in.

  39. betty on September 28, 2013 at 3:17 am

    i was in a abusive relationship with my first husband thats why he was the first,i left him.women need to stand up for themselves even if it means violence back because that is all men undersand. The men are traind in some type of sports to always be on the offensive side.Us women have to be on the defensive side in order to survive,if not most of us are beat down physically,emotionaly,or psychologaicaly.I truly believe that.I have learned men are like underwear if it don’t fit change or get rid of it.

  40. Wendy on October 4, 2013 at 3:47 am

    I can understand to a degree what Tracy went through. My first ex was very physically abusive. The first time was after 1 yr. of marriage, when he punched my face so bad I couldn’t open my eyes and it took about 3-4 weeks before the red haze went away and I could see. The second time he ran over my ankles with my own car because he found I had packed my clothes and was obviously planning on leaving. The third time he tried to kill me by ramming my motorcycle with his truck (I bounced off of several trees and at least one power pole). I called home each time to get my family to come get me, but my mother intercepted the calls and help never came, and the local cop said that my husband was just keeping his wife in order! Then he broke my jaw, and instead of taking me to the hospital, he had one of his friends come over and hold my jaw up so he could tie it up with a bandana! The last time he beat me I lost our unborn child because I refused to cook for the slut he brought home! I had to sit in the back seat on a plastic trash back when he/we took her home, then he took me to some ex Dr.’s for an abortion. As soon as I was able to move again, I just didn’t care anymore and told him to either kill me or take me to my dad! He did. After that he tried several times to run me off the road, catch me at gas stations, etc. I had began working for the state park and was transferred to a park at the northern end of the state. Every time I tried to come home my mother was determined I was going back to him.
    I had to ‘run’ again. I divorced him long distance. For my own safety. I had the local police in my home town run interference for me so I could leave before he could ‘get’ me again. After about four years she finally gave up on making me go back to him. They both had life insurance policies on me…rather big ones for that time (mid to late 70′s).

  41. Becky Mckewon on October 20, 2013 at 3:42 pm

    I grew up with and alcoholic stepfather and a manic depressive mother. I will never forget the first time my step father beat my mother when I was 10 they weren’t married a year yet. My brother and I sat there scared to death. That fear returned every time they had a fight. I was the oldest and we would jump in to try to stop the fight. I remember doing this when I was 13 brother 12 sister 10. It is a horrible environment to live in. Kids feel guilt about turning their back on their parent but parents should have the decency to get their kids out of that situation. Your kids come first not the other way around. My kids have never lived through anything like it.

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